Anger: Taming a Powerful Emotion

I rarely get angry or have out of control emotions but lately I felt angry about something in particular. So what does this book say to get rid of "simmering resentments" and "Good" and "Bad" anger? So as I continued to read this book I wondered what I could do personally to make myself feel better. As Gary Chapman says: "Anger is the opposite of the feelings of love. Love draws you toward the person; anger sets you against the person." Truer words have rarely been spoken! This book explains the root causes of anger like hurt, injustice or rejection. This book answers the following questions: What can delay an angry response? Why is anger sometimes an unmet need for love? What is a loving confrontation? Why do some people seem to have a change in personality when they are stressed out? Could anger have much deeper roots than we imagine? Is depression sometimes caused by anger? How can you prevent passive-aggressive behavior? In this book there is a prayer that when prayed seriously and with an open heart helps to dissolve anger nearly immediately. I tried it and it worked. This book also has information on how to deal with an angry person in case you got it for that reason. I actually bought this book for someone else, but I found it was helpful to me at a time when I needed it most. So whether you struggle with anger or are dealing with an angry person this book explains why it is happening and what to do about it. It really is that practical and helpful. You will probably feel much better after reading it and understanding your own unique situation. ~The Rebecca Review P.S. Forgiving the person and telling them you've forgiven them is key to getting rid of the obsessive thoughts and negative moods!!! It works!

I highly recommend this book for anybody who is going through anger management issues; and or want to get there anger under control or should I say to a manageable state. I admit, I am still learning how to control my anger every day. However, this book helped a lot and help me examine myself to address the underlying issues that I have been wrestling with for years. With that being said, I am a better person than I was five years ago. And I will continue to get better as time goes on. Keep in mind that I am only 26 years old. I know I have a lot more Learning to do in life. However this book has made me look at anger in a totally different way. Therefore, I can determine anger in two different ways; anger that is ridiculousness and anger that can be controlled. Simply put I can now determine when my anger is anger and belligerent behavior. The way Gary Chapman explains anger in this book is simple and easy but effective in a way for people who are dealing with these issues to understand what to do and how to control their own emotions and anger issues. However, the way he does it he just does not give you solutions to the problem. He gives you every day situations and teaches you how to apply them. Long story short… Parents if you're buying this for your teenager or a family member that are going through these same similar issues I highly recommend they read it by themselves so they can digested at their own pace. However, I also highly recommend it as a book you would use for a family discussion if your family is going through these same issues. Sit down as a family and discuss each chapter as a family. Even as a young couple going through anger management issues.

This is a good book. It explains anger very well. He gives good definitions for the different types of anger and how to deal with then. This is a well written book full of useful information.

I've become a fan of Gary Chapman since I read his easy-to-read, excellent Five Languages of Love. However, if you read Chapman, you can see that the intended audience is Christians. He refers to the Scripture often and some of his suggestions involve praying to God. If you are a Christian, this book is definitely recommended for you if you want to know how to deal with your own anger or someone else in your life who has anger. Keep in mind, I do not mean anger as only its explosive, scream-fest variant. Chapman does a good job covering the other dark side of anger: Implosion, or in other words, silence treatment, withdrawal, etc. His writing, as usual, is easy to follow. His strategies are viable. The issue? I consider myself to be an atheist. So, is this book still relevant to me? Honestly, yes. The author does a good job on elaborating many practical strategies and ideas. He emphasizes on listening (I love his listening, listening, listening strategy). He talks about forgiveness, a concept that should be important to even atheists or agnostics. Some of his Scripture-related stories are interesting to read, if you look at them through the lens of reading a story, similar to how you'd read Aesop's Fables. In a few pages, he provide chunks of writing on what prayer to say. I just skip those parts. If you're an atheist who is actively angry against Christianity or God, skip this book. The irony is that he has a chapter on anger against God. If you're otherwise indifferent about God or religion, buy the book.

No one wants to be considered “angry” especially if you are a Christian but after speaking to a counselor she recommended this book and I feel I am now equipped with tools to help me with processing and understanding all my past hurts that have been stored up and have made me into an angry person . This book talks about implosions which I feel I did for years which only led to bitterness, hate and resentment but all it did was hurt me. I stopped working out, I became depressed and felt alone in this world, but after reading this book I feel I’m not alone, I’m going to handle my anger better and I’ve started taking care of me again. Never do I want to be a Pepsi bottle that’s been emptied out a lil bit, capped back, and shaken yet pretend everything is ok. This book will help you understand how to accept anger as a rightful emotion given to us by God but how to use it for righteousness not destruction. Recommend 1,000%!!! Thank you Gary for saving my life, my marriage and my children for a road of pain and mental health issues we were heading toward!

At 75 I’m still learning. My anger issues have been waxing and waning for 40+ years. This book explains a lot about anger I was never aware of. I wish I had read it long ago. The subject is very well organized. Real life examples of appropriate and inappropriate anger are attention grabbing. After each chapter the author gives a concise synopsis of the preceding information. AKA Bullet Points! It is full of many practical advisories to help everyone with “anger issues.” I have a list of family and friends I’m thinking of getting this book for. Because it is such a hot topic in today’s society. Try it you will like it.

this books aids us to deal with the emotion of anger

If you are a good, loving and rational person who lives around other good loving and rational people and you occasionally feel anger but aren't known for being an angry person, then I believe this book will prove quite helpful to you. On the other hand, if you are someone who was raised in an abusive family (or lack of one) and have grown up with a brain that is hard-wired for angry and destructive behavior and despite all efforts, you feel like you will always have this "thorn," then I think this book will have some helpful points but you aren't really the intended audience here. As someone who falls into the latter category, I still think this is a good read and some of the practicals were helpful. I liked and have used the 5-step processes Dr Chapman presents for handling the two types of anger (essentially, justified and unjustified anger). And yet, that 5 step process is best played out in a near-perfect scenario. If you throw in young emotional children, a wife who is afraid of upsetting you because of your past behavior, a typical lifestyle of a busy family, or even a partner that isn't completely loving and rational, then things don't work out as nicely. I also appreciated Dr Chapman's stance on what anger is - not a sin to run far far away from, but rather a red-light telling you that something isn't right and you need to find out what that is and make peace with it. I find this is a healthy perspective on facing and working through anger. One option that Dr Chapman offers for working through anger is to "give it to God." I understand what he is trying to say there, but I wish he would flesh this concept out a bit more. It felt like this was something you do when all else fails and you have no where else to go - i.e. just "pray it away and you'll be fine." I suppose this is one more clue that this book was written for a more reasonable balanced and loving audience rather than those who have deeper issues to uncover. For those like me, I'd like to recommend another book that has helped me greatly: Why Can't I Change?: How to Conquer Your Self-Desctructive Patterns . All the best to those in their life-long journey to be more like Jesus.

This book helps me how to handle and identify the source of my anger. A good read for those who are wondering how to let go of the offenses in your life to God.

The book came quickly! Very excited to read.

I originally bought this book for my husband, whom I lovingly describe as a human pressure cooker with legs. I imagined gently handing it to him with a supportive smile, like, “Here. A helpful tool.” Instead, what actually happened was: I read it first, got halfway through, and realised, this is fascinating and finally I truly see his perspective. Gary Chapman, thr author, does a great job breaking down the difference between healthy anger (like when someone cuts in line at Cold Storage) and unhealthy anger (like screaming at your WiFi router as if it has ears). Reading the book is like therapy, but cheaper and you can read it while hiding from your family in the bathroom. The book also may help you sound very wise and balanced in arguments (whether you are or not). It’s ideal for passive-aggressively gifting to loved ones under the guise of “support.” Note it does have some biblical references - but they don’t make you feel judged by Jesus. I would passive-aggressively buy this again. It’s actually a very helpful read.

Lees dit boek niet als je atheist bent. Er staan heel veel verwijzingen in naar de bijbel, waar ik persoonlijk verveeld van werd. Er staan wel enkele goeie tips in , maar niets markerend.

No está mal explicada la cuestión de la ira, pero se centra mucho en el enfoque católico, y a los que no lo somos no nos interesa lo que pensaba Jacob sobre la ira, lo siento.