Emotional Processing: How to Work Your Way Through Almost Anything

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Emotional Processing: How to Work Your Way through Almost Anything is a practical guide to identifying, understanding, and managing your emotions. It will help you become more aware of your inner processes, lessen your emotional pain, and help you to be less emotionally reactive. The information in this book can also help you resolve inner conflicts that entrap you and rob you of your inner peace. The first half of the book gives you a step-by-step guide to understanding your mental and emotional processes. The second half focuses on overcoming self-attack, which can manifest as depression, anxiety, self-recrimination, guilt, shame, and worthlessness. You will learn how to deal with these painful feeling states in a simple, understandable manner and return to a better state of mind. Some of the topics that are covered are: how to develop an inner observer how to decode the emotional self how the quality of our thoughts affects our feelings how perceptions, beliefs, transferences, and expectations affect our emotional state the importance of being a human-proportioned self how to work with the actual versus the idealized self primary versus secondary feelings and their role in self-attack how to stop redirecting our anger for others to our self the role of self-forgiveness as a prelude to forgiving others the root causes of anxiety Written by a nationally certified psychoanalyst, Emotional Processing is factual and well grounded. It goes beyond superficial techniques for dealing with emotional imbalance, offering an in-depth approach to achieving peace of mind. If less comprehensive therapies have not worked for you, the information in this book is what you need. Review: Book's Title Meets Expectations - On January 25, 2018, my husband was in hospice. After a horrendous previous week which led to his placement there, I had reached a state of exhaustion and my blood pressure had spiked into numbers that I didn't recognize as belonging to my 70 year old healthy self. (Yet there it was, 145/100.) I happened on the "Final Thoughts" section of the book that discusses the dynamics of acceptance. I applied them. My next pressure reading was 126/83. I found the subtitle of the book, "How to Work Your Way through Almost Anything," to be true. Dr. Smoleny uses a take-you-by-the-hand, step by step approach that teaches ways to sustain a more balanced emotional, rational life. A favorite quote that reminds me to use the techniques in the book is, "The present moment is our only point of reality." This is primarily a how-to book. If you're stuck in an emotional quagmire and can't seem to find relief, this book does show ways to identify dynamics that lie beneath surface emotions and thoughts and teaches ways to observe, identify, and release things that are blocking your way. It is a how-to book that gives ways to stay emotionally balanced in the moment when the moment, thoughts, and emotions keep shifting. (If this sounds like Practical Zen, I mean it to.) There is a chapter on "Forgiveness and Self-Attack" that I found liberating. It shows how to stop blaming others and self for problems and wrongs we experience in life. For me the process presented in the chapter took me from judging myself and the world, to a state of understanding and compassion for myself and others. The chapter also addresses ways to handle people we find impossible to handle in life. "Emotional Processing" teaches how to stay focused in the present moment, and then how to use that focus to observe, identify and act in ways that can offer a more balanced emotional life. If your interests include personal growth and life-long learning, and if you dare to not just read the book but also apply its lessons, I think it can help you find your own way to working through almost anything. Review: A must read for working through your emotions. - I stumbled upon this book at a moment where the universe knew just how much it would help me. I have been struggling to understand my emotional outbursts towards loved ones, and this book is a guide to help one understand themselves, and the root of their actions, better. I will recommend this book to anyone who will listen because it was that helpful.