Parenting Teens with Love and Logic

Parenting Teens with Love and Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood is a book that every parent of a teenager should read. What resonated with me most is the authors' compassionate approach to parenting, balancing love, empathy, and accountability in a way that helps teens grow into responsible, capable adults. Rather than focusing on control or punishment, this book encourages parents to guide their teens through natural consequences and decision-making opportunities, helping them develop confidence, responsibility, and resilience. I found the practical examples especially valuable because they offer real-life strategies that can be applied immediately. As parents, it can be difficult to know when to step in and when to step back. This book provides a thoughtful framework for navigating those challenges while preserving a healthy, respectful relationship with your teen. The lessons extend far beyond adolescence and help prepare young people for success in adulthood. I came away feeling encouraged, empowered, and reminded that one of the greatest gifts we can give our children is the opportunity to learn, grow, and take ownership of their lives. Highly recommended for any parent seeking to raise confident, responsible, and resilient young adults. Why it resonated with me: The message aligns with the belief that our role as parents is not to solve every problem for our children, but to help them develop the skills, confidence, and character to navigate life's challenges on their own. That perspective makes this book both practical and truly impactful.

Please buy the book even if you have kids that aren't teens yet. This book saved me heartache. Especially with my son. It's an easy read and enjoyable. It teaches great lessons compassionately.

I read the original Love and Logic years ago. I remembered some of the core concepts and we are currently struggling with a child, a tween, and a teen who have significant mental health issues including oppositional defiant disorder, disruptive mood dysregulation disorder, anxiety, depression, suicidal and homicidal thoughts, autism, conduct disorder, ADHD, and severely aggressive behaviors requiring police intervention. I used to think there was so much nurture involved with having kids as far as nature vs nurture goes. I’m pretty convinced now that there is far more nature involved. Which means that the nurture or parenting that we supply is critical. I’ve felt like I haven’t been able to find the best way to parent my children and their many struggles even with regular therapy, lectures, in home therapy (ABA), and a background as a pediatric nurse. This book has filled in the gaps of knowledge, given me perspective, boosted my confidence- to call the police, to pursue individual therapy for myself, and to demand respect and contribution to our household from our children. If you’re contemplating buying this book, even if you’ve already read the original one, but it. Put sticky notes on pages to remind yourself or discuss with your significant other or “village”. Open yourself up to trying something new and, frankly uncomfortable but freeing. Your future self will thank you.

I got this book because I felt I could benefit from more tools/resources on how to handle typical teen situations and challenges. Most of the parents I regularly interact with do not have teens. And our situation with our teen doesn't fit the "norm." The biggest takeaway I've benefitted from is reshaping my perspective of my role in interactions. My teen LOVES to argue. About anything. About everything. About things that haven't happened. About what he imagines you might be thinking. About what he imagines you might think about a hypothetical situation that he has never encountered. So communication is challenging. He often goes fight-or-flight when we do communicate, and we haven't had his entire life to build a relationship with him. It's complicated, and I often find myself too emotionally drawn in and in a position of just reacting. Some of the advice of the book is so... emotionally removed that I don't think most people, as humans dealing with their children, are able to successfully carry it out. And I'm not even sure that is a good thing for the kid either. Robot, logic-only parents lack the socioemotional and empathy a kid needs. But, I think it is useful to take a step back and look at our own reaction/emotional involvement and see if that's benefitting anyone either. Including ourselves! The book did fall short of helping some aspects of our particular situation. But that is the case for most parenting books, which assume a certain family situation. Overall, however, I think the book can be useful and I will likely refer to it at times to reorient myself.

I am sorry I didn't have this raising my kids. But it is not easy at first. It teaches them how to make good choices and no yelling or arguing. Both parents must be in agreement and never say something then back down. Like tough love only better. The BEST if you follow it's method you'll have responsible kids making the best choice for themselves. I gave several to new parents. Has auxiliary booklets with quick advice too. Get used copy.

This book offers practical strategies and dialogue to help parents navigate the roller coaster years of parenting middle and high schoolers. If your aim is to raise kids who can be independent , responsible adults who can evaluate situations for consequences and problem solve for themselves, this book is for you . This book is the remedy for the helicopter parenting often seen in society today . In my book, it’s a must read for all parents .

Great book for any parent! Sensible information. Easy read. Must have for teenage parents.

This book gives clear guidelines and some specific, actionable ways to connect with your teen successfully. This book helps you guide your teens to make their own decisions and face their own consequences. You are taught to be a loving but firm trusted advisor to your teen. The real world doesn't yell or spank or nag or dictate... Your kid presumably is going to grow up and be in the real world, and needs to learn how to be his own person. Learn how to be a wise consultant so that you can control your anger and disappointment and put those feelings where they should be -- on the person making those emotion-producing decisions. I made a decision a long time ago to use the Love and Logic approach from the toddler-focused book and am refreshing my toolbox with the teen book. I've recommended both books numerous times. I believe this book may save your sanity and your relationship with your teen.