Establishing Boundaries: How to Protect Yourself, Become Assertive, Take Back Control, and Set Yourself Free: Be Confident and Fearless, Book 6

Well written book in establishing boundaries with others. Excellent examples given in how to phrase your comments to others when they make nasty remarks regarding your behaviors even when one is only defending their actions or replies. How to be nice but firm with others. One doesn't have to excuse oneself to the world, this author says.

This book was easy to ready, precise and concise. I was never bored and it kept me interested. I enjoyed it a great deal and learned so much about myself in the process!

I've read a lot of books on boundaries over the years and this was a refreshing and empowering take on them - it was exactly the kind of book I was looking for after running into some confusing and frustrating snags in my attempts at saying no and establishing boundaries with others.The author approaches the subject from a more foundational place, looking at what it is that you’re believing about yourself, others, and how relationships work. I appreciated the examples he provided throughout the book, especially when it comes to emotional boundaries and some of the other grey areas in interactions. I was having issues with some controlling people that justified violating my boundaries as being “helpful” or “wanting what’s best for me” and talking me out of them or telling me I was being selfish, difficult, over-sensitive, fearful, etc. I was also having difficulty since I had an unconscious and misplaced responsibility for other people’s feelings. The author touches on all of these things and I feel encouraged after reading this book to have respectful boundaries that suit me and to be able to stand my ground when others are pushing back or dismissing them.I also appreciated that the author addressed how you can sometimes overcompensate loose boundaries for overly-rigid ones and end up feeling just as frustrated – he offers examples of how you can find a healthy balance. Finally, this book is well rounded since the author encourages some self-reflection as to how you may be stepping over others boundaries as well and not realizing it. He addresses this is a non-shaming manner and I felt encouraged to not only offer myself more respect and honor my limits and boundaries but to be able to offer the same to others at the same time.If you’re looking for a book on boundaries that gets more to the root of your issues and provides an empowered approach to healthy relationships/interactions, I highly recommend this one!

Very well written. I don't normally finish self help books, but I read this in one sitting. I was able to relate to everything. It really gave me a lot to think about and a plan to get started on improving myself.

I don’t write reviews often. Only when I feel the work truly deserves it, as is the case here. The writing is clear and well thought through. The author is both knowledgeable and wise, which is rare. Many authors can break down a topic by simply putting words on a page, but the books that move us and change us are the ones where the author speaks not only from the mind (knowledge of a topic) but also from the heart, from a place of wisdom and intuition.I have been previously disheartened to read many books on the topic of emotional abuse and narcissism. While I know there are severely toxic dynamics out there, the majority of people experience boundary violation in much more subtle ways. I couldn’t relate to how many other authors approach the issue from a victim/abuser perspective. Many other books are passionately strong, I guess they have to be because some people are in harmful and toxic codependent relationships that they need to be shaken out of. But if like me, you can’t relate to the victim/abuser terminology, yet wish to improve your relationships with yourself and others (through empowerment of yourself and others), then you’ll love this book as much as I did!

Great pointers on how to set boundaries and how to respect the boundaries of others. Looking forward to applying this in my relationships with others.

This was a good read, very helpful. Originally purchased this book after having multiple hard conversations with people in my life. I gave three stars because I noticed some typos and formatting errors. Also some points were a bit repetitive and I would have preferred to have more situation examples and scripts for responding. Otherwise, it was still very insightful for someone who did not realize how much childhood experiences and cultural socialization could affect boundaries as an adult.

The author describes the necessity and flexibility of establishing boundaries by knowing oneself and one's values and how to follow through with establishing boundaries and also experimenting, treating boundaries as not only unique to each individual but also unique to each relationship, and respecting others' boundaries equally as our own in a reciprocal manner, recognizing that we and others will make mistakes as we are all flawed, and when to recognize true abuse versus decent but flawed behavior.Great book and very helpful.

This is a good introduction to the issues around identifying, communicating and managing a new set of boundaries, but it isn’t the best book I’ve read on the topic. It is very strong on identifying whether you (or others) have poor boundaries, and the consequences of that. It also recognises that others may not welcome your new boundaries and offers some suggestions on how to manage that, including some questions to help you decide what your response should be. It also acknowledges that you may well also have stomped over other people’s boundaries, and how to deal with that too, all of which is to the good. It is clearly and crisply written.So there is a lot that is good here, but personally I would have appreciated more detail on HOW to set boundaries, and perhaps more detail on how to impose boundaries in different settings: work, home, friends/ families/ partners.

I've always wondered how come that psychology, law and finance are still not part of the curriculum.If it was, this could be a very useful textbook.I'm going to try to get my 15-year old read it- wish me luck, hopefully he can squeeze it into his busy schedule inbetween The Inspector calls and some random trigonometry...

It's a good book about boundaries and how to establish them but is written with women in mind. I also found it a bit heavy on the domestic violence side. Not all of us with boundary issues suffer greatly, we merely feel like things need tightening up. There was mention of boundary issues being behind overeating or substance abuse but very little depth to this topic. I would have found this very helpful. Overall though it's a good start to looking into boundaries and what we need to do to establish good ones.

This book really helped improve my relationship with my dad and give me a feeling of empowerment to draw lines about what behaviour I will accept and what I won’t. It’s not easy but definitely worth it. I can see it working in most relationships and this is something I wish I had learnt about years ago. Very helpful, just what I needed.

Small book with large text and summaries repeated at end of each small chapter, with summary of book at end of book. What's there was good, but limited usefulness for me personally. I know what a boundary is, I needed examples of consequences and the kind of wording that goes along with it.