Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out

What an incredible book. I am so grateful that I purchased this book!!! My son graduated college 4 months ago and is struggling to find employment. Trying to navigate this time has been a challenge on our relationship with him at times, but this book gave me insight as to how I can change my focus and hopefully help the relationship and him overall! Ironically I read it in a plane (quick read which I also LOVED) on my way to meet him for a weekend trip…the book likely saved our weekend! Remembering that the focus of our weekend should be in creating fun memories and not spending the time digging into him on the job search. I found our son opened up a lot more to us as a result! Great advice in this book for parents-how to hold firm to your expectations and ground rules but not ruin your relationship with your child, and ultimately get them to take ownership of their adulthood completely! Wish I had read this sooner!

If your open to listening and take this advice, it's a game changer. It's not always easy but the advice makes 100% sense. It gives a different perspective. You can look at your kids in a different way. It's been so helpful in the way I respond to my 3 grown men, that I sill want to treat like my little boys. They've changed, now I have to change with them. And yes, we as parents, probably are still are RIGHT most of the time, but we had to learn our own way, so do they. It's been a God send for me recently. I'm listening to it for the second time now. Get the book, it helps!

Good resource. Need lots of support and prayer when dealing with this. Hard to handle an adult child that is mooching off of you. Or one that ignores you. Our kids have been brainwashed. You need God's help with these situations. Recommend for today's parents of these strangers that were once our children.

Interesting book. Good details

An excellent book. I’ve already recommended it to some friends. I usually get rid of books after I read them but I’ll be keeping this one for reference. The only chapter I was a little disappointed with was In-laws, Stepfamilies and the Blend. I expected this chapter to include ways to navigate your adult stepkids but it was actually about stepfamilies of your children are divorced. I would love to hear more from the author on navigating parenting adult kids in a second marriage as the parents

This book was easy to read. I connected with the stories and gleaned many good strategies for building healthy relationships with my adult children.

After hearing a YouTube excerpt from this author on this topic taken from a presentation he did at a conference, I decided to order the book. My husband and I have two teen boys, one of which is turning 18 in a month. We have been struggling with him and his very independent and somewhat rebellious (to authority) personality, and haven’t been sure how to enter this early adulthood stage with a kid who still has a lot of maturing to do, but will be an adult, still under our roof for awhile, and trying to navigate the messiness that our society is right now. This book has really helped shine some light on what works and what doesn’t. Written from a Biblical standpoint, and by a man who has been there with his own children, I have gained quite a few tips that I have already been employing as I try to parent my almost adult boy into manhood with the easiest and less traumatic transition possible for all. Some of the advice is hard to hear and the exact opposite of what my instinct is to do, but all perspectives and consequences of certain approaches are explained so well that I find myself mentally referencing what I read as my day goes by.

This book was such an excellent read. I recommend this book to anyone with children between the ages of 16-20 and up. My son left straight after high school into the Army and recently got married to his high school sweetheart, my daughter who is still at home is 17 and will be finishing up her junior year of high school this school year '21-22. I couldn't have read this at a better time. I have learned so much from this book and after reading it everything makes so much sense quite honestly but while you're parenting sometimes you forget that now you're children are older and as parents we tend to still want to tell our children more of what to do, rather then realizing that our older children need us to listen and be there with our welcome mat always available and our welcome door open. Let me just say since beginning this book as I was taking the steps that Jim Burns suggests and applying them with my daughter who is still home I began to see a major wonderful improvement in our relationship. I now see that while she still needs her Mom persay, she doesn't need all of my extra extra. Sometimes we can also over do it or want to tell them what to do thinking we are helping them when in essence at times we can be hindering them. Boundaries are important and at the same time how can our older children and adult children grow if we tend to be too afraid to really let go while always keeping the lines of communication open with our kids. I will admit that I struggled for awhile with letting go, and that is why I loved this book! This book taught me that that's ridiculous, of course you're children will always need you to some degree but you don't have to be overwhelming to them thinking you're only trying to help them along. They also learn through their experiences. I love my children with all of my heart and I'm so very thankful I purchased this amazing book, I learned so much I know you will too! Thank you to Jim Burns. What a pleasure it was to enjoy this book so much. I basically learned to flip my parenting role from always more or less delegating my childrens lives to passing the torch to God and to them to hold the reigns while being there whenever my children need me. The best is yet to come! ❤️