The Enneagram, Relationships, and Intimacy: Understanding One Another Leads to Loving Better and Living More Fully

HIGHLY RECOMMEND! When my fiancé and I were still in the early stages of dating, we started reading this book to better understand ourselves and each other. Natural opposites, the way we process the world around us and what motivates us greatly differing; we found that his Type 1 and my Type 2 had been seen and catered to by this book. Each section has a break down for all the enneagrams, which you don’t have to read all of them!, but being able to read the ones that most resonate with you and for your partner is truly a gift for your relationship. :)

Now i see how the Enneagram can be used to make a difference in people's lives... No wonder my wife and have been struggling. We kept trying to change each other, I now get how temperamental different we are, we weren,t honoring that at all. This book explains so much so well. Highly recommend this to anyone wanting to better their marriage or love life. I had heard of the Enneagram before but has no idea it could be so useful and constructively insightful, and so personally riveting!

Very useful information on the Centers and Instincts. I’m glad writers are getting back to the spiritually holistic perspective, instead of the dualistic sin and vice perspective.I gave it a 4 dues to the many distracting typos. An author of his caliber should not be self publishing.

As much as I love the Enneagram memes and light-hearted graphics, I also love the deep scholarly roots of the Enneagram. In his last seven years of life (from age 75-82), David Daniels, MD, shared his wisdom of the Enneagram in this recent publication released in December 2018.This book covers much more territory than just the Enneagram. It includes whole chapters on mindfulness, mirror-neurons, and attachment theory. Each page is dense with wisdom and knowledge. It is a treasure trove of counsel and instructions to leading a more intimate life with ourselves and others.Although the book covers a lot of ground, it is surprisingly easy to read and non-technical. The authors are truly expert teachers and facilitators on the Enneagram, and their experience is evident throughout the book. They include stories, examples, interviews, and quotes from their life's work with the Enneagram.I recommend this book to counselors, teachers, coaches, and others who want a deep interpretation and teachings of the Enneagram.

This book addresses key questions so many of us have once we begin our Enneagram journey…. how does this Enneagram understanding apply to our “real” life and how do we show up when it comes to relationship, intimacy, love, sex, and family? The chapters on intimacy and all the Enneagram-type influenced expressions (sexual and otherwise) are a must read for anyone wanting to understand relationships “from the inside out.” The authors guide us to first knowing ourselves intimately through a holistic Enneagram lens, and then finding our way to the deeper and more intimate connections with others that most of us long for. This book covers a lot of personal growth territory and would be good for both beginners and advanced students of the Enneagram. I found it to be very user friendly.Barbara W.

I was first introduced to the work of Dr David Daniels over two decades ago and found the Enneagram to be an excellent tool for self-discovery. Over the years, I was repeatedly pleased and surprised to discover how my interest in the Enneagram helped me understand “where people were coming from” in work or social situations. So when a few people close to me experienced relationship difficulties, I immediately thought of Dr. Daniels’ work. This latest book is an excellent resource for exploring and understanding ourselves, our relationships and how we interact. I’ve now bought this book twice for others and I’ve also gotten great feedback that it was useful, insightful and even fun! Highly recommended.

While the content is wonderful so far, it’s been an extreme challenge for me to read this book due to the horrific “editing”; a lack thereof would be more accurate. I hope to be able to learn one grow from the invaluable ideas and experience contained in this book, but so far I find myself mostly bringing my awareness to the deep annoyance of reading a poorly edited copy. Somehow this is even the second edition. I will edit this book for the third edition — just send me the document!

I recommend this book highly. It's not just an Enneagram book, it is much more.David Daniels and Suzanne Dion have done a marvelous job combining spiritual teaching and the Enneagram in a very readable interesting way. It includes our personality's typology as well as gives practical tools to help us to catch ourselves from the "Groundhog Day" events that occur in everyone's life.The authors also have illuminating chapters dealing with our most intimate relationships and how our own typology can easily clash with that of our partners. There are dozens of interviews that illuminate this portion of the book.

I ended up buying both digital and paper copy because I find it so useful and informative. Another great Enneagram relationship book for ourselves and others

"Love IS, at our core, who and what we truly are." And yet so much stands in the way of that - including ourselves.In The Enneagram, Relationships and Intimacy, authors David Daniels and Suzanne Dion don't just take you on a journey through the world of mindfulness, Enneagram and intimacy - they help you start your own journey to becoming a more loving, more free version of yourself, and healing and improving your relationships.In years of reading spiritual and self-development books, I've never seen this subject matter explained so clearly. 'Mindfulness' was little more than an abstract concept, that I understood mentally but didn't fully grasp. This book, however, brings it into the real, practical world, along with other concepts such as intimacy, presence, and reparenting yourself. The authors offer helpful, simple practices to be done alone or with a partner, and having those tools made me feel like I can actually start tackling these complex issues, right now.The explanations of the Enneagram were clear and beginner-friendly, but still provided food for thought for Enneagram veterans. Especially the testimonies of people of different types regarding sexuality and intimacy, really got me thinking about myself and my relationships, and asking myself questions I'd never asked before.Two things to keep in mind going into this book: first, while it does explain a lot about the Enneagram, it is primarily about self-development and relationships, rather than being an Enneagram guide. Secondly, parts of the Kindle edition (I can't speak for the others) feel like they could have used another edit, so the perfectionists among us (like me) might have to relax a bit in order to enjoy the great content that is offered.As is probably clear by now, I recommend this book. Not only do the authors thoroughly explore mindfulness, presence, reparenting yourself, relationships, and intimacy - they actually give the reader something to work with. You can read this book, you can think about this book, you can talk about this book, but above all, you can DO something with this book. I'm certainly going to.

Reading this book was an unexpected adventure — into myself. It includes an easy-to-understand introduction as well as a deep dive into the Enneagram system of personalities, which I didn't know much about until now. More than that, this is a book about relationships & how to compassionately and consciously pursue healthy ones, happy ones, and loving ones, all of which depends on the relationship we first have with ourselves. Very insightful! It goes on to elaborate on how and why are we different from one another, temperamentally, why we express love differently, & what we can do about it. This book is super helpful, friendly & well written. I highly recommend it!

This is an excellent book for a clinician or coach who would like to understand the enneagram on a deeper level while connecting it to psychological theories we know and love. It has helped me on a personal level and also professionally. A must read.